Young Love - A Note To Self

Cara in Rio De Janeiro (photo credit: Macy Yap)

There has been a request from some wonderful blog-followers for more words, and so I share with you an excerpt from a much longer, much more sensitive piece of "literature" that I have written, that will be released when the time is right (if that time ever comes).

For now, I leave you with these thoughts for the teens to 20-somethings, from this 20-something's own instructions to herself.

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--- If you are in a relationship, make sure it is one that empowers you, one that allows you to learn from each other, not one that holds you back. Make sure it is one that doesn’t get in the way of you being you in your youth. 

Make sure it is one that teaches you about yourself. 

Make sure that it is one that makes you laugh more than it makes you cry. 

Make sure it is one that makes you feel like your capabilities are boundless.

Be with someone who supports you, someone who doesn’t impose unsolicited opinions, someone who allows you to take time for yourself. 

Be with someone you can honestly converse with, someone that listens, someone that you want to listen to.

Be with someone who doesn't possess you, but who possesses qualities that you admire.

Be with someone who doesn’t play mind games, who doesn’t use guilt to manipulate you. 

Be with someone who wants to know you, someone that wants you to know who you are.

Be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, who everyday tells you that you are beautiful both inside and out.

Be with someone equally ambitious, someone also constantly working on self-improvement, someone who inspires you to challenge yourself instead of just being comfortable with what you have. It is more likely that this kind of person will understand that at this point in your life he may not always come first, but that that doesn’t necessarily make him any less important.

Be with someone who truly appreciates not just your presence but your role in his life, someone that trusts you and someone that you can trust. 

Be that someone for someone.

The time will come for compromises and sacrifices, but there is no better time to discover who YOU are than in your youth. 

The right person will admire your strength of character. 

The right person will encourage you to be the best version of you that you can be, and the feeling of security within that relationship will be unbreakable. ---

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To readers who have reached out via Twitter/Facebook/E-mail, thank you. I am honored, delighted, humbled.

Peace, Light, and Love,

Cara