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| Ryan Gosling (photo credit: GQ Magazine) |
Sometimes a girl meets a boy who tickles her fancy right off
the bat.
It may be the color of his eyes, the rhythm in his step, or the tenor
in his “Hello.” His haircut, his wristwatch, or the mere timing of the
acquaintance – she can’t quite explain what it is, not even to herself. But he
interests her, and he doesn’t even know it yet.
Most men think they have the power to make women fall for them, when the truth is that every man that’s
ever been given a chance to prove his worth has already been pre-selected. Yup, I hate to break it to
you boys, but you aren’t in control of whether or not our panties fall to the
floor, we are. Your efforts don’t actually go towards catching our attention so
much as towards keeping us attentive.
We don’t essentially want you to knock us off of our feet,
because in reality nobody really chooses
to fall – and I’m speaking literally too. What we want is for you to prove that
we were right about you all along, that you were worth our time like we thought
you were. What women want is to be right,
always right, and to be acknowledged for being right. #UniversalTruth
At this point I predict male readers will be firing up force
fields around their pride, citing instances where they’ve successfully “bagged chicks”
without even trying. First, relax boys, it's just a blog. Second, as early as now we can come to an agreement. It
isn’t your #SwabeMoves that get us, its your personhood.
Okay, okay, so we swoon over the athletes and the movie
stars and the musicians, but their physical appearance merely tickles our appetite.
Women of substance appreciate men of substance, which is probably why even the
less-than-perfect / asymmetrical-faced athletes, movie stars and musicians have
groupies. We’re attracted to the passion that they have for their craft and to their
personal drive to succeed. (Speaking of Drive, hello Ryan Gosling.)
While some women are particularly drawn to the shy guy, I am
partial to boys with confidence – with humor and wit to back it up – boys that
don’t take themselves too seriously, but are serious about what they want out
of life. Whether we go for the one that waits for us to give him the “it’s OK
you can talk to me” signal or the one that introduces himself with ease, all
women will agree that we are easily attracted to a man who is comfortable with who he is.
There is nothing sexier than a sense of self-worth (that
goes both ways, ladies). I’m not talking about the guy that’s so full of
himself that he jabbers on about his accomplishments (or his inherited fortune – hey, if you didn’t
earn it yourself then it isn’t yours to brag about). I’m talking about the guy that
knows he has something good to contribute to society, and who continuously works towards self improvement. If he can show purity of
intention and a genuine interest to get to know a lady better, then she will
leave a window of opportunity open. Usually, it is at that time when a man thinks, “Aha, her guard is down, I can make my move.”
Not at all do I mean to discredit a man’s ability to attract the
opposite sex, but to give credit to the man that knows that the most effective
way to get a woman’s attention is to be a man, himself.
Carry yourself like you know who you are and what you expect
of yourself, so that she, in turn, will know what she can expect from you.
We may be fickle about shoes, handbags and dessert, but when
it comes to men, we know what we want when we see it. ;)
Cheers!
Bro Tip: We like it when you pay us a compliment that we haven’t heard before.
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